Information for Parents
Common Sense Media says Iffy for 16+
Realistic look at teen culture has drinking, sex, language.
What Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that The We and the I offers a realistic look at a bunch of New York high school students taking a city bus home on the last day of school. All the teenage drama you'd expect is present as characters flirt, bicker, tease, and show off. The film captures youth in all its glory, and the teens all look, act, and sound exactly like real people. Expect near-constant swearing ("f--k," "s--t," and more), and some flashback scenes that include underage people drinking at parties (sometimes to the point of unconsciousness) and smoking cigarettes. Many characters talk about sex, and a few are actually shown fooling around, again in flashbacks, with some very brief nudity (breasts).
- Families can talk about the teens in The We and the I. Do they seem like real people? Do they remind you of anyone you know? How do they compare to other movie teens?
- How does the movie portray teen drinking and sexuality? Is it realistic? Are there realistic consequences for the characters' decisions/actions?
- What do you think about the various groups of friends in the film? Is it easy to tell how the characters relate to each other? Do the cliques seem familiar?
The good stuff
Positive messages: Beneath the bluster, the teens in this film just want to be liked. While they spend most of the film bickering, teasing, posing, and showing off, a few eventually manage to let their guard down and connect with each other.
Positive role models: Most of the featured teens spend a lot of time trying to hide their real feelings behind a facade of bluster. It's a necessary skill to survive the harsh world of adolescence, but a few are also able to tap into their real feelings. These are the times when viewers get a chance to see young people actually managing to have mature relationships.
What to watch for
Violence: Plenty of bickering and arguing among high-spirited teens, and a few spats escalate into shoving, wrestling, and slapping. One random street encounter has a tragic ending that occurs off screen, but the news affects many of the characters.
Sexy stuff: Many discussions about sexual encounters, some flirting and kissing, and some flashbacks that show people fooling around. A few scenes feature brief glimpses of breasts, and there's a realistic drawing of a nude man. One girl has a sexual encounter while she's extremely drunk and doesn't seem to be making informed decisions.
Language: Plenty of swearing as a group of rambunctious teens talks, teases, yells, bickers, and brags very realistically, incorporating profanity into almost every conversation -- including very frequent use of "f--k," "s--t," "ass," "d--k," "bitch," and more. African-American characters often refer to each other using the "N" word.
Consumerism: Every character is deeply attached to their mobile phones, including models from Apple, Samsung, and other popular makers.
Drinking, drugs and smoking: Some flashbacks show teens at parties drinking, sometimes to the point of unconsciousness. A few people smoke cigarettes on a city bus. Characters discuss their past exploits involving drinking.